More hair, more problems...I thought I was experiencing this phenomenon first hand, but not nearly as much as my sister and fellow blogger Miss Cee C. Miss Cee C, pictured above with a 6 day braid-out, garners a lot of attention when she steps into a room. So much so that she is beginning to question whether or not her hair is too much for work. Don't worry. She has no plans of straightening it or cutting it, but she is considering wearing more protective styles, updo's and pin-up's so that the attention is less on her hair, and more on her as a person.
I myself have been garnering more attention with my hair. Not nearly as much as my sister probably gets, but enough to wonder when I am justified in being annoyed. Here are some examples taken from my life experience and Miss Cee C's...
- Hand in Hair Syndrome. By this I mean, other people's hands in your hair, sometimes without permission. My friends, associates, and even strangers have fondled, even grabbed my hair unexpectedly. My general rule of thumb is that I don't mind when I know the person, but when does it become too much.
- Oh, The Things People Say. Unwanted commentary on your hair, and my personal favorite (not!), the assertions that someone likes your hair but could never be natural, for whatever reason. It is a choice, not a necessity, to chemically alter or straighten hair. I also have been told that my hair does not qualify as curly. Sorry, I don't go by nappy or kinky.
- When Are You Going to Straighten Your Hair? Miss Cee C has been getting this question repeatedly from a particular person. I have been getting this question as well more frequently. I also hate when someone says, "You know you can straighten it without getting a relaxer?" As if I don't know. I know my options, and I choose not to straighten my hair. I do not go up to every relaxed individual and ask, "When are you going to Big Chop? When are you going to give up the creamy crack? When are you going to let your natural glory shine through?" I don't ask that because it is rude, the same way it is rude when people incessantly ask someone with natural hair when they are going to straighten it.
- Is That Your Real Hair? I have not yet experienced this, but from what I hear, the longer and bigger a natural's hair is, the more likely people are to believe it is not their hair. On the one hand, I understand that there are a lot of weaves out there, but I have always found it a bit rude to out right ask someone you do not know if their hair is real, or assume that it isn't. I have even heard of people looking for the tracks or lace fronts. Again, this has never happened to me. As my hair reaches new heights and lengths, I hope it doesn't.
In spite of it all, sometimes I take a good look at my hair, and remember that it is all worth it.